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Social Dancing

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A Guide for Dancers Commenting on Online Posts

Etiquette

I have a problem: I am far too easily attracted to online debates. My frequent desire to leave long comments is part of why I started this blog. On a whole, blogging tends to be a much more constructive alternative to…

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The Cologne Problem

Beginner-Friendly, Etiquette, Social Dancing

Recently, a gracious leader asked me to dance. We got into close hold, and the connection was lovely. But, within 3 seconds in close hold, I had to walk away from the dance. He was wearing so much cologne that I could feel my…

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Should pros social dance: a follow-up

Social Dancing

Yesterday, I published an article about why some artists may not social dance all night at parties. Several dancers responded, and said they felt it was a near-mandatory part of an artist’s job because social dancers are their “employer”. Some…

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Should Pros Social Dance?

Social Dancing

Many social dancers go to events for the opportunity to dance with their favourite pros. In some places, the most sought-after dancers can have a line-up of people waiting for their “3-5 minutes of heaven”. But, there are some pros who social…

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The 7 Deadly Dancer Sins

Fun Stuff, Social Dancing

In many Western cultures, the idea of the 7 Deadly Sins is a common way we frame undesirable attributes. They capture habits that are easy to fall into – but may create havoc in our personal or professional lives. In dance,…

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The Three Dance “Hells”

Social Dancing

In dancing, there are three stages where most dancers deal with deep feelings of frustration or apathy – and sometimes even leave the scene. Some dancers get stuck in these for a long time – while others may only spend…

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In a Culture of Isolation, Be the Invitation

Inspirational, Social Dancing

“In a culture of isolation, be the invitation to everything.” – Vera de Chalambert* As dancers, we know the meaning of an invitation. Or rather, we think we do. We invite each other to dance. Leaders invite followers into patterns and movements. Dancers…

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Men: Manage Your ‘Joystick’

Beginner-Friendly, Etiquette

This past weekend, I was having an enjoyable dance with a guy. The dance was smooth and relatively connected.  He moved into a closer hold, and the dance suddenly became distinctly unenjoyable for one reason: His “joystick”. On my leg….

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Navigating Your First Social

Beginner-Friendly, Social Dancing

So, you’re ready to start social dancing! Maybe you’ve taken a few classes, or perhaps you have a friend who is dragging you out one night this week. Whatever the reason, I hope you have an awesome time. Before you…

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Backfollowing: when leaders lose their intention

Leading, Social Dancing

Most dancers have heard of the dreaded Backleader: the follow who doesn’t listen to their partner. But, until now we didn’t have a similar concept for leaders who don’t lead.  Therefore, I’d like to introduce the concept of backfollowing: when leaders…